I Dont Love You Anymore: What to do when he says,

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When you like what you see when standing naked in the mirror you thrill at the thought of sexual pleasure. You might now think your hips are far too wide or your breasts are no longer the perky peeks they were when you were first married? When you look at your bed rather than thoughts of wild carnal pleasure, you are lusting after a good night of eight hours of sleep. When hardships crack the surface of your perfect world you are left gazing at one another without false illusions. They are not always the happy, self assured, fun loving, playboy playmate you thought you married.

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If your spouse says the words "you do not make me happy anymore" to your back because he is unwilling to see the hurt inn your eyes, it is okay. The night my marriage ended, the rain beat against the bedroom window as I gazed out at the wet night sky I thought my world had crumbled. The family I had built torn apart leaving me feeling lost and alone. I did not know if it was me he did not love anymore or living with the constant reminder that good health was a blessing and not a given.

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What was I going to do with my small sons to raise and having an illness which left me fatigued and feeling anything but attractive? Tap here to turn on desktop notifications to get the news sent straight to you. In fact, he thinks he had every right to run you over.

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I know that was a pretty graphic story, but this scene is a pretty good description of what it's like to hear from your spouse's lips: He has run you over, and you don't even know why. The reasons he gives you make sense to him, but not to you.

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You've got to get up, get off that road, and get moving. You need to bind your wounds, protect yourself, and pull your life together. I want to be perfectly clear on something right up front. Throughout this book, I refer to the husband as the one who is the adulterer or involved in some other significant sin.

The only reason for this is to avoid the awkward switching back and forth between the masculine and feminine pronouns: Obviously, the wife could be the one who says, "I don't love you anymore," and is sinning. First of all, you must understand exactly what "I don't love you anymore" means. It does not mean any of these things: There are no ifs, maybe's, or we'll see's about it. It is not a cry for help.

When He Doesn't Love You Anymore!

It is a cry of finality. It is a slamming door. He's not trying to get your attention. He has decided to get out of the marriage. In a high percentage of cases, he also has found someone else he'd rather be with. He jumped off the fence and is five neighborhoods away. Oh, he may act confused and all torn up inside. A lot of these husbands ought to receive Oscars for their "this really hurts me" performances. The pain you see is either fake, or just the last few gasps of guilt for what he's going to do.

The guilt won't stop him. All he's worried about now is how to get away from you with the least amount of damage to his reputation and bank account.

10 Ways to Cope When He Says He Doesn’t Love You

The second unpleasant reality is the state of marriage. American society used to value highly the institution of marriage. People revered it as one of the pillars upon which this country was based. When you got married, you were expected, by practically everybody, to stay married. There was a tremendous amount of healthy social pressure-from government, church, business, media, school, neighborhood, friends, and family-to work through the tough times and remain husband and wife.

How to Cope When He Says He’s Not in Love With You

Unless you had an extremely good reason, divorce was not an option. Oh, how the times have changed. In the s, society's commitment to marriage began to erode. In the s and s, this erosion became a landslide. We now stand at a point in American history where there is no commitment at all in secular culture to lifelong marriage. The value of marriage has been buried under an avalanche of secular excuses, rationalizations, New Age psychobabble, and selfish lusts.

Marriage has become another casualty of the world system. More accurately, Satan's system. We did not heed God's warning in I John 2: Do not love the world, nor the things in the world. Marriage has gone from being a permanent and essential home fixture to a temporary convenience. It's like an appliance-the refrigerator, the stove, or the dishwasher.

As long as it works and meets your needs, fine. When it begins to break down and give you trouble, just get rid of it and get a new one. Divorce used to be the last and worst alternative to continuing in a troubled marriage. Now it is considered the first and best alternative. Every single divorce has the world system seal of approval on it. The message trumpets from every corner of society: You're only going to live eighty years, so you might as well be happy.

You're a fool if you stay!


There's still plenty of support for marriages in the church. Wherever God's Word, the Bible, is faithfully taught, there will be Christians who will help you in your time of crisis. They'll genuinely want you and your spouse to stay together. They may not give you the best advice in the world. You are worth so much more than that. So go ahead, and let him go. But it will be worth it in the end. But you will gain back yourself. For more poetry and writing follow me on Instagram!

You look back and you just feel stupid.

You reread every text. You relive every memory. And it all starts making sense — he never wanted love. He only wanted attention. He only wanted validation. I love the writing and the photos.